Mmmm….when it comes to blogging anxiety, it’s several things really…
Not even a week into our collective comeback and I’ve got blogging anxiety again. And I’m hearing voices. Well, one voice really. Mine.🙄
And it taunts me with these neurotic questions which, I answer one by one further down: (The voice is thin and whiny but my answers are very shouty because I’VE HAD ENOUGH OF MY OWN VOICE WHINING AT ME!
- “What if you don’t have time to blog every
day, week, month, year, decade, century?”
- “What if you don’t have time to read every blog in the known universe and, what if new universes are discovered and they have blogging there?
- “What if you miss someone’s post and they think you’re ignoring them and they hate you forever.”
- “What if you miss a comment held in moderation and people think you are ignoring them and they hate you forever.“
What about that then? Eh? Eh? (I used to speak Canadian, can you tell?)Blogging Anxiety -What if you miss someone's post and they think you're ignoring them and they hate you forever. @GillyMaddison Click To Tweet
Blogging anxiety is such a thing for me I did write about it once before. when I got blogging block.
See, I’m neuwritetic (a bit like neurotic only worse).
No, no, I am – don’t try to make me feel better, I can turn absolutely any situation into one of high anxiety.
I’m not doing blogging anxiety ever again, therefore, I’ve set me some ground rules so I can stop babbling in my own ear and driving myself nuts.
So here’s what I’m telling that voice.
Q: What if I don’t have time to blog every century?
A: For a start voice – quit whining in my ear. You’re driving me to drink and what a shame to destroy 29 years of living on carrot juice. I’ll blog when I have time. Maybe every century is a tad unrealistic, but, we’ll see.
Seriously, I’m not going to go quiet on my blog again now that Mimi has fired us all up. But I know I can’t write every day and sometimes every week might be hard. I have a 91 year old mum to care for and a business to run so time is tight – as it is for all of us.
And I also spend an inordinate amount of time in the summer sitting on the garden swing in a trance, staring at ants because they fascinate me.
And, I don’t suppose anyone will care if I am not popping up every five minutes with a new post – so it’s all good.
Q: What if you don’t have time to read every blog in the known universe and, what if new universes are discovered and they have blogging there?
A: For heaven’s sake voice, what do you want from me? What with gluing bits of card to other bits of card and filming it, repeating everything to my mum 20 times on the phone (her hearing aid is 10 years old and the NHS isn’t in a hurry to replace it) and, with all the ant staring, how much time do you think is left for reading?
Seriously, this issue cropped up for me a lot back at the start when it was all a big race for stats (or some of us believed it was). Some people will relate to this I’m sure.
You’d join a group and everyone would be jolly hockey sticks about interacting and it worked for awhile.
Eventually, it became apparent when a narcissistic blogger was in my midst. They were the ones who would lap up your comments like a thirsty dog in a puddle but just didn’t reciprocate. (While complaining bitterly on forums when others were not liking or commenting on theirs.)
For awhile, I continued to do my bit regardless of whether a blogger was supporting me (or not!) Afterall, if I’d enjoyed a post, did it matter if the writer wasn’t ecstatic about mine?
Unfortunately, in the end, it did matter. Why? Because there are only so many hours in the day and I found I was letting good people down because I ran out of time every day.
And then people would post again before I’d caught up and every night, I was up until the small hours bashing away at the keyboard while my husband wondered if I was avoiding
And I’m not one to write things like “Great post!” – I never hit and run. I like to actually read the post and connect with the writer – so it all became a bit crazy for me.
In the end, with needy parents taking up lots of my time, I lost track of everyone, even the good guys and I just stopped reading anyone.
This time round I’m going to be a lot more organised 😂😂😂 It’s three strikes and ‘no shows’ are out. No messing. I will gladly read and comment on anyone’s posts – if we are supporting each other. Hell, I’ll stay up all night when we are all helping each other.
But if a blogger I am supporting isn’t supporting me, I will assume they don’t like what they find here and I will focus on those who do – no matter how much I like their posts because, well, I’m not a doormat anymore.
That may sound harsh but last time around, I remember how crazy it got with late nights trying to catch up with everything. And I’m not doing that again for bloggers with narcisstic personality disorder. 😂🤣😂
Lets communicate! If we are too busy to keep up with each other – lets talk about it in the group instead of just ignoring the issue.Lets communicate! If we are too busy to keep up with each other – lets talk about it in the group instead of just ignoring the issue. Click To Tweet
Q: What if you miss someone’s post and they think you’re ignoring them and they hate you forever.”
Oh. My. GOD voice! What is wrong with you? Your paranoia is reaching new heights! You need climbing ropes and spiky boots for this one!
Seriously, if I usually show up and then I miss a post or haven’t responded to a comment or just appear to have disappeared – it will not be deliberate (unless there’s been three strikes😂).
There were times last year when my dad was dying when I almost forgot who my husband was, so the blogging world never stood a chance!
We all have stuff to deal with and the beauty of our group is that we can prod each other and say – hey – WTF are you – you missed my post!
I probably won’t do that myself, (because of my own personality disorder which no one talks about and hasn’t been named yet🤪) BUT I’m happy for people to remind me if I haven’t shown up yet when I normally do. There are times when I am AWOL from my own life because of some elder crisis or another and we all know – it’s hard to do everything.
Q: “What if you miss a comment held in moderation and people think you are ignoring them and they hate you forever.“
Here we go again voice – get the spiky boots and ropes out again! No one cares that much. Get over your damn self woman!
Seriously, I catch up with everything in the end. It might take a few days, but I don’t ever really forget what I need to do because I keep a bullet journal with the most detailed tasks of stuff to do. It’s not so much a Bu Jo, more of an OCD Jo.
If you feel as if I’m not playing fair – tell me – when I realise I’ve missed something I’ll be mortified – I can say sorry for England. I’m a contender for the Saying Sorry OlympicEvent and I’ll probably get a gold medal in the next Olympic Games. 🥇
So, that’s it – my blogging anxiety all laid bare.
I’m going outside to stare at ants because it is a beautiful sunny day and I’m allowed because I’m the boss around here (and the only employee which is why I talk to myself so much.)
How about you – do you get blogging anxiety or do you just not give a f*&k? – talk to me and tell me if I’m mad – I only need three more yes’s for an official diagnoses.